Last Saturday my parents in law celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. It’s so impressive to be committed to one person for such a long time and take all their good and bad things for granted. I can’t imagine what it feels like to be married to someone for 50 years. I’ve been married for 13 years and already find that a massive achievement as I’m quickly bored of someone and left quite a few boyfriends broken-hearted. I also dislike commitment and rather be free as a bird to go and do whenever and whatever I’m pleased. The main reason I don’t have children.
Bo really doesn’t bother about this in my character and that must be the reason why we are still together. He doesn’t mind that I’m in a different country away from him 9 months of the year. He doesn’t mind that I rather not have him text me all day wondering about my whereabouts. He doesn’t mind my plans to move yet to another home in another country. He basically doesn’t mind my independence and for that I love him. I also think that absence in our relationship makes the heart grow fonder as we hardly see each other during the week. We always have loads of stuff to tell each other, we never get those couples that are silence in restaurants – what’s up with those people? If we were together in the same time-frame and routine each and every day we would end up like one of those couples. Oh never will I become one of those couples.
Our relationship also works as we are both not jealous people. Last week I went to a play and was so intimidated by the appearance of the main character that I was too shy (something that’s alien to me) to walk over to him, when I saw him in the bar afterwards, and tell him that I thought he was brilliant. I fell a little bit in love with him and told Bo this when I got home. I love that I can tell these things to my husband as he’s also my best friend.
I’m lucky. I might keep him for 50 years.
It must be the same for my parents in law as they still seem to be crazy about one another after all those years.
Despite my love/hate relation with the colour purple, I loved that they picked purple and was really chuffed to see my father in law wearing the Liberty tie I bought for his birthday last June.
I was not in charge of the photography as I’m crap at shooting pictures of people and because I wanted to celebrate and not be behind the camera all day. I did however took some shots with my 50 mm here and there, as one does.
What do you think makes a marriage last for 50 years?
wat een lieve post! een prachtige foto van Bo’s ouders en gefeliciteerd. 50 jaar samen is prachtig en uniek. X
Prachtige foto’s en wat bijzonder, 50 jaar samen.
Die man van het toneelstuk was inderdaad appetijtelijk.
Very sweet!!!
Yvonne, heb je mijn mail ontvangen of gewoon drukjes? Zo klinkt het wel, vind het jammer dat ik niet op de Woonbeurs geraak dit jaar..
Indien interesse, nog een save the date voor je, 18 november bij ons, mini-fair maar een uitnodiging volgt
Met mijn schat van een husband gaat dat ook lukken en hopelijk nog langer:-)
very sweet and honest, what a blessing! Heather
Hele mooie foto’s, gefeliciteerd nog voor jou en Bo!
Wat betreft je laatste vraag; Ik denk dat het voor mij en mijn lief belangrijk is dat er juist niet altijd gepraat hoeft te worden en dat we ook gewoon samen in stilte van elkaar kunnen genieten.
Liefs
I think passion plays a big part. I’ve been married 11 years and like you, I feel like I should get a parade or something every year on my anniversary. I think passion, and a lot of effort on the other stuff, are what keep us going.
Lovely post. Congratulations to your in-laws, what an achievement. Marriage is a journey. And you have to work at it. But when it’s good it’s amazing.
Oh wat een bijzonder mooie post!
En jee! vijftig jaar! ik vier vandaag negen jaar maar hoop dat ik ook zo mooi de
-vijftig jaar samen- mag halen…
xx gefeliciteerd
geweldige stropdas!! …en 50 jaar, dat is ook geweldig!
Very cool! Congrats to them!! Hopefully they will have many many more happy years together!!
Such a beautiful post! I think forgiveness, humour, compassion, change and of course deep love and respect are all essential for a long happy life and long happy relationships. Here’s to living well together X
Mooi hoor 50 jaar samen.. Gefeliciteerd ook voor Boris (ik zie hem in zijn papa)!
Oh yes! That’s what didn’t look quite right – the purple
Sweet en openhartig! Een blogpost a la Yvonne.
Voor mij (als nog niet getrouwde) is het recept voor 50 jaar samenzijn dat je van die 50 jaar IEDERE dag jezelf kunt zijn. Naast het ‘koppel’ ook een ‘individu’ blijven. Leven en laten leven zeg maar. Volgens mij hebben jij en Bo dat wel in de pinken.
gefeliciteerd, wat geweldig zeg! wat heeft je schoonmoeder mooie handen, hou ik van puur en eerlijk
Elkaar vrijlaten is belangrijk, vind ik. De ander in zijn waarde laten. We zijn niet getrouwd, maar houden het al 7 jaar uit. Voor mij is dat ook all heel erg lang. Gelukkig zijn we niet “joined at the hip” anders zou ik gek worden. Kan ook niet want mijn vriend heeft onregelmatige diensten, ik heb dus regelmatig tijd voor mezelf.
What a wonderful occasion
My parents are approaching sixty years together! I think the key is tolerance, as you say. Me and my man seem to have been together for a good while now, that’s what is working for us 
50 years, amazing, congratulations to them both.
I always thought it was odd seeing couples in restaurants not talking to each other but now I’m one of them! We have so much time to talk to each other at home that when we are out we seem to spend most of our time watching others.